Goals are tricky. If you become obsessed with a goal you miss living in the present. If you don’t set a worthy goal however your full potential constantly eludes you. There’s a delicate balance that must be struck between gratitude and discontentment. To be thankful for all you are and all you have while being fully aware that you can accomplish so much more in every area of your life. Here are some things that might help as you set your sights on the year ahead.
Have a brutally honest conversation with yourself. Are you really happy? What hurdles, situations or circumstances are stealing your joy? Are you confronting them head-on or hoping they go away? The relationships with those in your inner circle will be an anchor or fuel in the year ahead. Be intentional about maintaining and improving them. Have frank conversations with those closest to you and ask how they are feeling or how they perceive the health and authenticity of your relationship. This exercise is cathartic and liberating. It also gives you some clarity on what you need to improve to move to the next level.
Have your antenna up for something that is incredibly meaningful to you. A cause that has nothing to do with money but in some way makes your neighbourhood or community a better place. When you donate your unique talents to this need it gives you a feeling that you’ve made a contribution in some way that lives on long after you’re gone. A legacy of some sort if you will. There comes a point in everyone’s life where they recognize a life without meaning is empty, emotionally bankrupt. Being aware of this basic human need and filling it sooner than later creates the emotional balance for optimum performance.
Book a course, a workshop or lessons that will challenge you intellectually and force you to learn something new. Sign up for a physical challenge, triathlon, marathon, 5k run, 2k mile swim, 50k hike or marshal art that scares you! Hire a coach and/or take lessons. Don’t think, just do and tell those close to you what you are up to. This exercise is ultra fuel for making you the best version of yourself in every area of your life.
Take a good hard and honest look at your net worth. Your total assets minus your total liabilities. Write it down as of January 1, 2022. What would you like it to be on January 1, 2023? Find someone that has done financially what you’d like to do. If it’s investing in real estate find a mentor. If it’s stocks find a successful advisor and hire them to guide you. If it’s retiring early find someone that’s done it, gather as much information as you can. Anything you want to do chances are someone else has already done it. Put your ego on the shelf and find them. Thankfully most truly successful people love helping others, it is simply a matter of asking and then executing on the guidance they give you. Don’t expect it to be easy or filled with guarantees, that’s the safe road, the safe road has a much lower rate of return. (Think rocking chair instead of a roller coaster).
Finally, desire without discipline leads to depression. If you don’t have a burning desire to grow you simply won’t conjure up enough discipline to stay at it for the long haul. You’ve got to be emotionally attached to the outcome you are after. That energy has to come from a deep desire to change, for all the right reasons, for you!
Happy New Year, hj